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Barbara Myerhoff’s poignant observation, “Unless we exist in the eyes of others, we come to doubt our own existence,” resonates for anyone who has felt unseen or invisible in their journey. Originally written about the lives of abandoned senior citizens, this insight transcends its original context, offering a universal truth about the human need for acknowledgment and connection.
A client reached out to me last week and asked me if I could explain why I don't accept insurance. Here is my answer and my personal thoughts. I am not in network with any insurance companies and below you can read why.
Many times, people feel they are ready for something to change, but they aren't sure if therapy is the right choice for right now. It could be financial reasons, scheduling issues, or just not feeling quite ready to invite another person into what feels messy. If that's you…
I just spent a few days immersing myself in a Somatic Integration and Processing Training. I really loved it, and one of the ideas that kept my brain kept circling back to was how often we accidentally leave our bodies out of the “mental health” conversation. It doesn’t work when we just try to re-train the brain and re-write our thoughts and we leave our bodily felt sense out of the equation.
"What is rewarded gets repeated. What is punished is avoided."
~James Clear from his book Atomic Habits
I enjoyed the book Atomic Habits. I thought it was excellent. I appreciate this quote. But it doesn’t tell the whole story.
Let's talk about what I mean.
You might have been rewarded in ways that aren't obvious.
“But from this moment on, I understood that feelings, no matter how powerful, aren’t fatal. And they are temporary. Suppressing the feelings only makes it harder to let them go. Expression is the opposite of depression.” - Dr. Edith Eva Eger p 178-9 of her book The Choice: Embrace the Possible
Were you really being selfish? Or were you in survival mode without realizing it?
This is a question that I often ask my clients when they say “I feel like I’m being selfish.” In order to understand the question, we need to go into a bit of therapy lingo.
Adaptive Information Processing, or AIP for short (not to be confused with the diet) is the theory behind EMDR.
I have named my blog the REAL-ationship blog because deep down, that’s why most people come to therapy. They want to make their relationships better. This includes both relationships with their loved ones and even their relationship with themselves.