Sexual trauma & Unhealthy Romantic relationships

Whether it was chronic for years and years, or it was a one-time assault, relationship trauma can get stuck in the body.

I work with adults who have been sexually abused. Maybe you’ve never said it out loud before. Maybe you’ve talked about “abuse” in general, but it’s scary to think about what really happened.

It may be impacting your life in obvious ways- you never quite feel safe during sex, you flinch when you think about intimacy, or in the reverse, maybe you have sex to regain the feeling of control, it feels like it can’t have power over you if you’re saying “yes” this time.

It may not be so obvious. You might wake up in the morning exhausted from your dreams during the night. You might still have sex or be intimate, but you feel disconnected. You avoid sex altogether. You might not feel anything emotionally, but you’re having issues with your pelvic floor that are impacting your life in other ways.

You might be afraid that it will happen again, because you feel like you can’t pick good partners, no matter how hard you try. It feels inevitable, so either you keep people at a distance and don’t engage at all, or you try not to care too deeply about the person you’re with because it feels like then it will be easier when it all falls apart.

I want you to be able to heal.

I want you to have choices again. You can heal the layers of trauma to be able to trust your gut when it comes to picking romantic partners.

It takes some deep work, but you can get there.

If you want to experience therapy or an EMDR Intensive to begin or continue this journey, please reach out.