Individual Intensive for the Client Stuck in Couples Therapy
You can’t reason your body out of reacting to your spouse.
You’ve tried. God knows, you’ve tried.
But every time they ask you “what were you doing when I called?” immediately your body goes here we go again and the shut down begins.
You try your hardest in couples counseling and it still feels stuck, even though the new therapist you have is better than the others you’ve tried. You share your feelings. You do the exercises that the therapist recommends, and still…somehow you’re blocked and you end up doing the same thing- hiding, even if it is behind “emotion words.” You’ve tried this before.
But your partner means too much for you to quit. You are stuck because you can’t imagine life without her, but life with her is pretty miserable right now.
There’s a niggling feeling that it is your old childhood stuff that is coming up. Even though you’ve worked through it before, it’s rearing its ugly head again.
How many more times can you talk about that time with your mom in therapy?
You need to actually work it through - get the body to release the old stuff - and then you have the shot you need to actually reconnect with your partner without getting triggered the moment she says the wrong word.
You need someone who can hold you in your intense trauma and remember that the whole reason you’re doing this is to save your relationship. You need a therapist who won’t make your partner the problem and won’t let you off the hook either.
You need someone who will create enough safety for you to process your trauma while also challenging you to let your partner in on what’s going on. This is especially the case even when (especially when) you aren’t 100 percent completely “fixed.”
Yes, you have to actually let your wife see behind the curtain before the experience has completely perfected itself into words.
Enter the Individual Attachment Intensive:
Molly is 100 percent committed to helping her clients heal from their childhood trauma so that they can have the relationships that they have always been too afraid to let themselves want.
What you get:
-A personalized intensive schedule and format to work through your blocks.
-A therapist to therapist consultation with your couples therapist, so that you are supported completely throughout the process.
-A significant amount of therapy in a small amount of time- enabling you to speed up the process of your growth to be where you want to be when you show up to couples therapy.
-A workbook ahead of time, so you can maximize your time in session.*
-Access to video library of experiential exercises and journal prompt.*
-A schedule that works to maximize your processing and give you the most flexibility. In person and virtual available.
-Safety and challenge. You will be pressed to work through your issues that are holding you back from the intimacy and authenticity you long for in your relationship.
*These two are totally optional and depend on your capacity but can save us hours of session time.
What’s holding you back?
No really, I want you to answer that question. Take a moment to be honest to yourself.
If the truth is that she isn’t worth it, then don’t bother. But if she is, the clock is ticking.
Don’t let childhood crap rob you of your most important relationship. It’s been too long already.